Handouts!!

Yesterday I was randomly browsing instagram and I chanced upon a video of a wrestling match between 2 middle school kids. Now you may all be wondering as to what was so great or mentionable about that. 



The match was between a normal, or in other words a physically fit kid and a special child. 
Here, one out of two things could have happened. Either the stronger child could have very easily subdued the weaker kid and won the award:
Or he could have allowed the other child to win just by falling down and lying prone. Both the scenarios would have taken just seconds and both were in the control of the physically fit child.



The amazing and the noteworthy thing was that the kid did not choose either of the two options.


Rather, he put up some fight and allowed the special child to make some efforts and fight a little and after a tussle of five to seven minutes, the able child pretended to fall and very smartly (and may I say with utmost care) wrapped his arm around the other child and pulled him on top, so that there was no doubt about the special kid’s win!




In another instance, I saw some youngsters trying to help the homeless and the poor by giving them a month’s worth of groceries. But they didn’t want the homeless to feel little or embarrassed. So they very smartly (again I would like to say showing utmost sensitivity) sneaked up behind these people, who were either sitting on the pavement or on a bench, just dropped the bag of groceries behind them and stealthily walked away. 
The joy and the tears on the faces of those people upon seeing the bag and realising that they wouldn’t have to sleep hungry for some nights was priceless…maybe that was reward enough for those youngsters.










That got me pondering…








We all want accolades for the good that we do. Be it getting awards for an achievement of being honoured for a good deed….Acknowledgements are always desired.




Then what made these youngsters help someone without the wish of being patted on the back?
What drove that child to allow his friend to be in the limelight when he could so easily have stood on the podium?
What joy did these people derive from that obscurity and anonymity?






Nobody wishes for handouts. Every human soul is born with a certain pride and ego and the feeling that someone is bestowing upon them something, without them having to work for it, is similar to a beggary. 
And no one likes to be a beggar!




Maybe the thought that the Almighty has chosen us to just be a medium and he wishes to help someone through us…..this thought alone is the driving force behind such acts of benevolence.

Where the person just derives joy is witnessing someone else’s joy without any ego or the thought of supremacy that “I DID THIS”.


Maybe the only sentiment behind such acts is caring and a whole lot of sensitivity for other breathing and living beings!




As Denzel Washington has so correctly and beautifully said, “At the end of the day it’s not about what you have or even what you’ve accomplished. It’s about who you’ve lifted up, who you’ve made better. It’s about what you’ve given back”